I gave my husband a threesome for his 40th birthday.
Pamela Druckerman, the famous author and columnist created controversies by gifting her husband, Simon Kuper, an unconventional gift: a threesome-to celebrate the 40th birthday of the husband. This entire concept was not brought out without thought, as it came out of a fantasy for the long time Kuper shared with Druckerman through the years. Druckerman took the desires of the husband seriously and thought of gifting him with one memorable experience rather than a luxury gift.
The one decision to go for a threesome wasn't an easy one. There was also much humor from Druckerman for the trials-and-tribulations that come along with such-an arrangement-from finding a suitable partner to dealing with the emotional side that comes with having done things with more than two people. She also went on talking about the initial confusion and fear one had as one started to think about how best to approach this most tender of situations. This is, after all, taboo stuff in the general culture on top of being more associated with celebrity or super-adventurous couple experiences.
Druckerman was kind of enchanted with this decision, recalling the truth in the epic journey she took into accepting her initial very personal reflections on intimacy and desire in very long-term relationships, figuring out that real success here would lie in everyone's candidness and mutual consent. It was obvious that this gift was not about merely satisfying a fantasy but was a way for both partners to negotiate for themselves what the experience entailed--and thereby to deepen their connection with one another.
Put simply, the tale of Druckerman is one interesting take on the modern style of relationship, as well as the various forms of love definable these days. By such a peculiar choice of giving her husband what he wants, she did not violate gift-giving conventions but clarified this approach as understanding and embracing each other's fantasies in a committed relationship. So in this raw narrative, for instance, readers are prompted to re-examine their views about intimacy and bond and be invited to share and talk with their partners on the subject of wishes and limits.